Wednesday, January 19, 2022
To the parents of Tye Davis...Debbie, we never met, but I knew you to be a mother much like my own....positive, optimistic, infinitely loving, complimentary, and maybe a bit nervous.....I always feel my mom is on edge, having watched her 1st born rip through life at a blistering pace, but taking it all in and laughing all the way, like a youngster maybe on a Rollercoaster fir the first time ever. I always sensed that she was both happy for me, proud and admiring, but protective.....she told me one time that she hasn't always been happy with the choices I've made, she hasn't always agreed with my perspectives, but she envied me and admired the way I moved through my life because I always did it my way and I did what I wanted to an s not much of anything I didn't want to. That's the nicest thing she ever told me I think, it's the ultimate of compliments isn't it? Tye, much like myself, bent life to accommodate him and his way.....life wouldn't always be so malleable surely, but you could bet that Tye, like an engineer inspecting a buildings steel framework, would find every bit of life that proved to be pervious to his will. O loved Tye. I know he loved me. We, like our mothers, had so much in common and it was a relief to hang out with a kindred spirit. Even more than that, it was easy. Tye made it so easy to like him, listen to him, believe him, impress him, and celebrate and laugh hard with him. And we did laugh really, really hard on more than a few occasions. Two grown men....men who, at our age, just don't laugh until breathless and weak and on the ground surrendering to the power s that be, yes the ones in charge of laughing ok....nobody could bring up that amount of joy and shared recognition of the irony of the moment. It takes a kindred spirit to do that. We never spoke of this fact, we didn't ignore it, we just enjoyed the time we got to enjoy laughing at life and being grateful. He always told me to "stay grateful". It was his password on many websites......he was grateful. And I believe because of that he was happy. And because of that, he was satisfied. And because of that he now rests peacefully. Occasionally mustering up the gall to make fun of himself and make me laugh out loud, and when I does I am grateful, super grateful for the potency of the time we enjoyed as friends, albeit not as long as I would have preferred. It's potency made up for that. Everyone loved Tye, enjoyed his gentleness, his giving nature, and his modesty. You should know how much love he brought into this world and how brightly it shone. ♡Matthew
